Parenting 101- Folks, raise your own d*$% kids!
Okay....Let's not get it twisted. I AM NOT AN EXPERT BY ANY MEANS when it comes to parenting I do however think that I have a pretty good foundation from which to build on. I'm not a wife beater; I don't do drugs; I pay my bills (most of them) on time; I think my parents did a good job of instilling some "core" values in me (and my siblings) to help prepare us for the real world.
First of all, we have got to teach our kids right from wrong. No, you can't let Ray Ray climb all over the furniture, write on the walls, throw a tantrum, etc. and think its "cute". Or say, "he's too young to spank" or "I don't believe in spanking 'cause it teaches him/her to be violent". Think about it. Back in the day, did you ever hear of elementary age kids bringing guns to school? At best, there was a fight and someone went home with a bloody nose. Now, kids get into an altercation and one is wanting to KILL the other. K-I-L-L. How scary is that? Don't you think that there is a direct correlation between us "expanding the boundaries" of our kids and the fact that their "limits" are way out of wack?
You can't wait until they are 10, 11, or 12 to start teaching them about consequences. I started with my son at age 4 (some people thought that was too young) and now, whenever he's in someone else's care or under their watch, we hear nothing but praise about his manners, his level of respect, etc. Now I do understand that it is A WHOLE lot easier when there are 2 parents under the same roof (I thank God DAILY for my wife) but in those cases when that is not possible, each parent has to step up THAT MUCH extra to make sure the total "parent job" is covered.
Don't trip. Parenting IS A FULL TIME JOB. Just 'cause you are not around 24/7 doesn't mean you shouldn't be involved 24/7. A phone call; an email; a school lunch.....hell, a post card- something- ANYTHING helps foster your influence.
I know some of you are saying "man...that's easier said than done". I'm sure it is but come on....You owe it to your kids!! And while I'm thinking about it, parents.. Stop giving your kids everything they want ..and then some. If you don't teach them now that everything will not just be given to them, when life starts to throw them some "curves", they will not know how to deal. Look at these kids who flip 'cause their parents won't let them drive the Jag to school (they have to drive the older Benz instead). I'm sure some of you...in fact, I'd venture to guess that most of you work with a person who acts like they have never heard the word "no" before. You know the type...they come into the breakroom and change the TV channel without even asking if you are watching it. During a staff meeting, they will just start talking over you without saying excuse me or anything (and look at you cross-eyed if you say something). They'll see you eating something and just come over and pick at your food...and the kicker, you are at lunch (or go out for after work drinks) where they eye your drink and before you can react they say something like "hey, what's that? It looks good! Let me get a taste" and they proceed to drink out of your glass!
Do us all a favor......Please don't "create" one of these adults-
Raise your kids correctly!!
as always,
"Doobie" & "Pumpkin"- Hugs & kisses!
To my lovely wife, Ses..
Love ya!
one
Okay....Let's not get it twisted. I AM NOT AN EXPERT BY ANY MEANS when it comes to parenting I do however think that I have a pretty good foundation from which to build on. I'm not a wife beater; I don't do drugs; I pay my bills (most of them) on time; I think my parents did a good job of instilling some "core" values in me (and my siblings) to help prepare us for the real world.
First of all, we have got to teach our kids right from wrong. No, you can't let Ray Ray climb all over the furniture, write on the walls, throw a tantrum, etc. and think its "cute". Or say, "he's too young to spank" or "I don't believe in spanking 'cause it teaches him/her to be violent". Think about it. Back in the day, did you ever hear of elementary age kids bringing guns to school? At best, there was a fight and someone went home with a bloody nose. Now, kids get into an altercation and one is wanting to KILL the other. K-I-L-L. How scary is that? Don't you think that there is a direct correlation between us "expanding the boundaries" of our kids and the fact that their "limits" are way out of wack?
You can't wait until they are 10, 11, or 12 to start teaching them about consequences. I started with my son at age 4 (some people thought that was too young) and now, whenever he's in someone else's care or under their watch, we hear nothing but praise about his manners, his level of respect, etc. Now I do understand that it is A WHOLE lot easier when there are 2 parents under the same roof (I thank God DAILY for my wife) but in those cases when that is not possible, each parent has to step up THAT MUCH extra to make sure the total "parent job" is covered.
Don't trip. Parenting IS A FULL TIME JOB. Just 'cause you are not around 24/7 doesn't mean you shouldn't be involved 24/7. A phone call; an email; a school lunch.....hell, a post card- something- ANYTHING helps foster your influence.
I know some of you are saying "man...that's easier said than done". I'm sure it is but come on....You owe it to your kids!! And while I'm thinking about it, parents.. Stop giving your kids everything they want ..and then some. If you don't teach them now that everything will not just be given to them, when life starts to throw them some "curves", they will not know how to deal. Look at these kids who flip 'cause their parents won't let them drive the Jag to school (they have to drive the older Benz instead). I'm sure some of you...in fact, I'd venture to guess that most of you work with a person who acts like they have never heard the word "no" before. You know the type...they come into the breakroom and change the TV channel without even asking if you are watching it. During a staff meeting, they will just start talking over you without saying excuse me or anything (and look at you cross-eyed if you say something). They'll see you eating something and just come over and pick at your food...and the kicker, you are at lunch (or go out for after work drinks) where they eye your drink and before you can react they say something like "hey, what's that? It looks good! Let me get a taste" and they proceed to drink out of your glass!
Do us all a favor......Please don't "create" one of these adults-
Raise your kids correctly!!
as always,
"Doobie" & "Pumpkin"- Hugs & kisses!
To my lovely wife, Ses..
Love ya!
one
posted by Darryl Krush at 8:03 AM
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